domingo, 29 de marzo de 2015

Forgiveness is a virtue of the brave. Gandhi


Every day, every week I get home and check vogue Spain for updates on trends, to check out news in the fashion industry, to see what has been lately worn by people like Rhianna, and to check out what new articles has Suzy Menkes written. Some days, never the less, are more special than others because I find that this or that fashion week has started, and trust me, I take great pleasure in both looking at the runway shows and the street style diaries. Some months ago, this happened and while I was scrolling through vogue to find which show would I choose, I found myself staring blankly at Maison Martin Margiela, whose new creative director is john Galliano (and the first brand to give Galliano a second chance) the thoughts flooded my head, memories of awful comments that had been made both by john Galliano in 2011 and comments about him that I had read in articles of different magazines and editorials.


For those of you who haven’t heard of him, John Galliano was the designer and creative director of Dior for a very long time, until 2011, when he made offensive anti-Semite comments that I decide to leave out of this article, but which you should know, where very, very inappropriate. This, along with several other reasons like his drinking, cost him his job, and the respect of thousands of people around the world among which I count my self.  He has since tried to explain his ruthless behavior with reasons such as the addiction, the stress blamed on “you’re only as good as your last collection” and his research on Rudolf Nureyev (a dancer who was accused of being anti-Semite) for a collection; but the skeptics have had arguments related to the “in vino veritas”.



 "I am deeply shocked and disgusted by the video of John Galliano's comments that surfaced today. In light of this video, and as an individual who is proud to be Jewish, I will not be associated with Mr. Galliano in any way. I hope at the very least, these terrible comments remind us to reflect and act upon combating these still-existing prejudices that are the opposite of all that is beautiful."
 (comment by Natalie Portman, face of Miss Dior)

I decided not to see the show, which I was surprised got wonderful reviews and support, as I decided not to read the interview that he was part of in Vanity Fair, and as I had regretted the day john Galliano worked with the one and only Oscar dela Renta. I was taught since very little by the movie bambi that when I don’t have anything kind to say then I shouldn’t say it, but I will say what I thought until yesterday about that troubled man, one: he doesn’t deserve my, or anyone’s attention in the fashion industry, nor to be part of it. And two: his designs do not really suit my taste.

During the last week though I caught myself thinking about this man, no reason, just reflecting, and I went on vogue to prove to my stubborn self that my opinion on him was still reasonable, but I found, as I have found so many times before, that I, along with the media, am very fast to judge, and way too slow to forgive. On taste, I found that this man has evolved fashion-wise, and although he still keeps his love on over the top outfits, has also found a way to be simpler, to be sincere, his designs are still not my cup of tea, but I can see very stylish people wearing his pieces...




And this lead me to look up on his personal evolution, I read his interview with vanity fair and I watched his interview with Charlie Rose, where I found a man who opened himself fully to public scrutiny to prove he was sorry, to prove he had been sick and drunk and intoxicated on valium and sleeping pills, but was now sober, to prove he had reached out to the fashion and Jewish community to ask both for forgiveness, he has been to synagogues, he has attended bar mitzvahs and had met with several rabbis, and to prove that even if he is not forgiven, he will keep trying to make amends.


“It’s the worst thing I have said in my life,” he told me, “but I didn’t mean it.” Later he added, “I have been trying to find out why that anger was directed at this race. I now realize I was so fucking angry and so discontent with myself that I just said the most spiteful thing I could.”
 (comment extracted from the Vanity Fair interview)

I may not be part of the Jewish community, and although I dream of being a part of the fashion community formally it is still a dream that will not become a reality soon, but I do think that both of these communities should match up to the courage that John Galliano has had to confront his disease and his unforgettable mistake, and forgive him. The truth is that when one man commits a mistake society should not try to sink him deeper, but try to give him a shock of reality, and then to pull him back up.

All major religious traditions carry basically the same message, which is love, compassion and forgiveness the important thing is they should be part of our daily lives.
Dalai Lama

“As a Jew and as a rabbi, if anybody makes a mistake—and we all make mistakes—built into Judaism is the concept of giving a person another chance, or forgiving. So much of who we are and how we operate as human beings is built on that very principle.”
 (comment extracted from the Vanity Fair interview)





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 El perdón es una virtud de los valientes
Gandhi


Todos los días, todas las semanas cuando llego a mi casa del colegio me siento a leer en la pagina de Vogue España sobre los artículos de Susy Menkes, sobre las nuevas tendencias, y veo lo que han utilizado personas importantes en la industria últimamente; algunas veces sin embargo, se rompe la cotidianidad cuando veo que una u otra semana de la moda empieza, y en aquellos casos decido entonces dedicarme solamente a ver los últimos shows de diferentes marcas y las fotos de “moda en la calle” que toman afamados fotógrafos. Hace algunos meses, mientras me encontraba en esta tarea me topé con el show de Maison Martin Margiela alta costura, que fue diseñado en su totalidad por John Galiano, y una colección que simbolizó el comienzo de la segunda oportunidad de Galliano, y entonces me acordé de los horrorosos comentarios que hizo en el 2011, y que causaron tanto revuelo.


Para aquellos que no sepan quién es, John Galliano es un diseñador que por muchos años fue el director creativo de la marca Dior, hasta que en el 2011 en un bar de París hizo unos comentarios anti-semitas y racistas, que estaban bastante fuera de tono, y que decido adrede no agregar a mi artículo; Desde entonces el ha tratado de explicar sus acciones atribuyéndolas a sus antiguas adicciones, a la presión de “eres tan buen diseñador como tu ultima colección” y a su investigación sobre Rudolf Nureyev (un bailarín que fue acusado de ser Anti-semita) para una colección ; sin embargo, todavía, después de dos años de disculpas y arrepentimientos, existen escépticos que basan su resentimiento en el “in vino veritas” una frase latina que tiene el mismo significado que el proverbio latinoamericano “los niños y los borrachos siempre dicen la verdad”




"Estoy profundamente conmocionada y asqueada por el video de los comentarios de John Galliano que surgieron hoy. A la luz de este video, y como una persona que se siente orgullosa de ser judía , no voy a estar asociada con el señor Galliano de ninguna manera. Espero que por lo menos , estos terribles comentarios nos recuerdan que debemos reflexionar y actuar contra estos prejuicios aún existentes que van en contra de todo lo hermoso"
(comentario de Natalie Portman, embajadora de Miss Dior)

y entonces ante el recuerdo de este repugnante episodio decidí no ver el show que el había diseñado, como también había decidido no leer su entrevista con la revista Vanity Fair, de la misma manera que sentí repudio el día que el admirable Oscar dela Renta decidió trabajar con el para una colección. Me enseñaron desde muy pequeño tanto mis padres como la película Bambi que si no tengo nada agradable que decir, no debería decirlo, sin embargo si diré lo que pensaba de Galliano hasta ayer, uno: no se merece ni mi atención, ni la de nadie en la industria de la moda, y mucho menos hacer parte de esta; y dos: sus diseños no me gustan.

Sin embargo, la ultima semana me encontré pensando en esta desafortunada persona y entonces sin mas razones que para probarme a mi mismo que mi opinión no estaba mal me dirigí a la pagina de Vogue e inspeccioné cuidadosamente las ultimas dos colecciones de Maison Martin Margiela. entonces me encontré con que esta vez, como tantas otras, había juzgado sin fundamentos. En gustos descubrí que este hombre ha evolucionado mucho, sigue teniendo un amor por lo estrafalario, pero ha encontrado una manera de convertir su estilo en algo mas simple y sincero.



Y esto me llevó a ver si esta persona también había evolucionado en lo personal, vi su entrevista con Charlie Rose y leí su entrevista en Vanity Fair, y me di cuenta que este es un hombre que se ha abierto completamente al escrutinio publico para probar que estuvo borracho e intoxicado con Valium y pastillas para dormir, pero que ahora esta sobrio, para probar que intenta todos los días pedirle perdón a la comunidad de la moda y la comunidad judía, para probar que ha estado en sinagogas y ha conocido rabinos, y para probar que incluso si no es perdonado, va a seguir tratando de arreglar las cosas.



"Es la peor cosa que he dicho en mi vida", me dijo, "pero no la dije apropósito Más tarde, añadió: "He estado tratando de averiguar por qué  la ira estaba dirigida a esta etnia. Ahora me doy cuenta que estaba tan jodidamente enojado y tan descontento conmigo mismo que acabé de diciendo la cosa más rencoroso que pude ".
 (comentario extraído de la entrevista de Vanity Fair)

puede que no sea parte de ninguna comunidad que se vio ofendida por estos comentarios, pero si creo que estas comunidades deberían igualar el coraje que le tomo a John galliano pedir perdón y tratar de arreglar su vida, y perdonarlo. La verdad es que cuando un Hombre o mujer comete un error, la sociedad no debe tratar de hundir a esa persona, sino hacerle un golpe de realidad, y después ayudarlo a salir de la situación en la que se metió.

Todas las grandes tradiciones religiosas importantes llevan básicamente el mismo mensaje, que es el amor, la compasión y el perdón, lo importante es que debe ser parte de nuestra vida cotidiana.
Dalai Lama


"Como Judío y como rabino, si alguien comete un error y todos cometemos errores-el concepto de perdonar y de la segundo oportunidad esta integrado al judaísmo. Gran parte de lo que somos y cómo funcionamos como seres humanos se basa en ese principio ".
 (comentario extraído de la entrevista de Vanity Fair)

2 comentarios:

  1. Beautiful post. I think the media is often quick to label people as bad people when they say or do something wrong. Instead of forcing them to apologize, we should let them take the time to heal and grow and learn from their mistakes. Not everyone who does something bad is bad, but they probably do have some issues they need to work out.

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    1. Thanks. I feel the same way as you do, people, and i know i've cometided this mistake too, are too often very quick to label and judge, and are very, very slow to forgive and help.

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